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..my side anyway.

So mom informs me that I'm not wearing either my pentacle or my flame in Philly. Something about our psycho-Catholic eastern European family? I dunno.

I might not be so pissed off about it if it was a one time thing where all she wants to do is keep someone from making a gigantic scene. But it's not.

My mom seems to be convinced that I only wear the pentacle to say "Look at me! I'm not Christian!" Not the case. Of course, way back when I wore a cross 24/7, she never seemed to think I was wearing it to say "Look at me I'm Christian!"

Shes also convinced that the reason I'm unmployed is said piece of jewlery. Yes that's keeping me from getting EVERY job I apply for, right?

Anyway, this is getting to me. And while I see where she's getting the logic about the pentacle, I really don't get what she suddenly has about the flame. As far as almost anyone is concerned, I wear the flame cause it's pretty and I like fire. I've actually been asked by quite a few Christians if it was a more obtuse symbol of Christian faith (I don't remember which book...Romans maybe? Someone saw flames above the heads of Christians) Well for me it isn't.

Part of me says wear it, I have the same right to expressions of faith as the rest of my family. Part of me says don't fight about it. Part of me says confuse mom and wear a cross.

Yes, I am somewhat conflicted about this. Because it's not the appropriate time to fight about it, but I don't feel like I should have to hide it, and by gosh, won't these people be more concerned about their mourning than about instigating conversion?

On top of all this, I get to sit through a full-on Catholic mass a viewing, the funeral, the grave-side service, the luncheon, going back to her house for whatever it is they're doing there, and Gods know what else.

Oh. Joy.

Date: 2003-03-30 05:07 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sunneyone.livejournal.com
hi renee! *hugs* i hope things settle down for you soon. i'm sorry about your great grandma....

Date: 2003-03-31 07:10 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] twistedcat.livejournal.com
Part of me says confuse mom and wear a cross.

Dood. I think that's the funniest solution. Do it!

Date: 2003-03-31 10:27 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] linzbinz.livejournal.com
*Sigh* That is such a hard situation... I guess my whole thing is that your family should respect your opinions and beliefs, whether they disagree with them or not. You're FAMILY. Families are supposed to just suck it up, and deal with it. Maybe you should not wear your necklaces through the mass/viewing/funeral/graveside service, and then put them back on for the lunch, and chillin' at the house. That way your mom couldn't blame you for being what she considers to be "disrespectful", but you could still be wearing them at some point. I dunno...I think you should be able to wear them all the time, and I'm Christian. *Shrug* I suppose it's more about understanding, and less about judging. *Covers you in kisses* Tell me what you decide baby...

Date: 2003-03-31 04:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mmc327.livejournal.com
I'm sorry about your great grandmother too.
I hope your mom's wrong about the pentacle being the reason you're unemployed. The unemployment rate is high now (thank you, pResident Dim Son) and employers have more applicants and more reason to be picky and some of them are conservative prejudiced assholes and others may not be so conservative or prejudiced but are just looking for any way to narrow the field and they'll come up with some valid-sounding excuse like lack of experience (I HATE that!) or too much experience (HUH?) or some other bullshit reason to hire someone else.
Job hunting sucks. I can't wait until I win Powerball (yeah, right).

Date: 2003-03-31 09:32 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] iamjanjan.livejournal.com
Part of me says confuse mom and wear a cross.

something about that idea seems unbelievably mischievous... heh.

Confuse her even more...

Date: 2003-04-01 07:31 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] corpslave.livejournal.com
Wear the pentacle AND a cross!

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