I, obviously, come from a very strong culture of staying in the tribe/religion, and I married in it. I've dated outside it, of course, but my bottom line always ended up "In any situation that involves my hypothetical future children, I want the people who raise them with me to be either of my religion or sufficiently uncaring about theirs that mine _will_ be the only one going on."
I've found, when I date people within my religion, there _is_ another layer of things we have in common, and it's a very important one, even though I spend a lot less energy on my religion than you do on yours. It's not crucial, and I've certainly gotten involved with people without it, but it brings something into the relationship that nothing else does.
Acceptance is a bare minimum. But it's _nice_ to have someone who uses the same spiritual shorthand that you do.
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Date: 2007-10-18 03:28 pm (UTC)I've found, when I date people within my religion, there _is_ another layer of things we have in common, and it's a very important one, even though I spend a lot less energy on my religion than you do on yours. It's not crucial, and I've certainly gotten involved with people without it, but it brings something into the relationship that nothing else does.
Acceptance is a bare minimum. But it's _nice_ to have someone who uses the same spiritual shorthand that you do.