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badstarSo like, I'm almost 27. I've never dated anyone on a serious basis. Up til 2 years ago, I had never gone out on more than 3 dates with one person without bailing. Then I was sorta-kinda seeing someone for a while and that just kinda ran its course or whatever. I'd say he's still a good friend :-)
Since then, I've gone out with a few people a few times. And a few others just once. The "just once"'s were nice people, but it was like "Okay, you're nice, but spending two hours with you is preferable only to watching baseball- and that's really stretching it." The others were like, coffee here, dinner there, a movie once or twice and suddenly *poof*. There was one girl I went out with a coupe of times last fall/winter, we had a lot of fun. There seemed to be a mutual interest, and she actually asked me out more than I asked her. And then one day...*poof* I was more bummed about that one than the others. At least I never just disappeared on anyone. "I just can't do this right now" or whatever I said was kinda lame. But I gave them the courtesy of letting them know there wouldn't be another date.
And then for a while now, I've either met no one I'm interested in...or suddenly find myself with a crush on someone completely off limits, or just...not such a great idea. Tha's kinda annoying.
But the whole situation in general, I'm not entirely sure how I feel about this. Part of me is totally cool with it- I don't *need* anyone. But part of me isn't so much...I kinda *want* someone. I want to have someone that I can get to know and share some time with. I'm not looking for the rest of my life here. Is a couple of dates and some time hanging out too much to ask?
People complain about rejection. Right now, I don't even have a chance at rejection! (It's kinda sad when rejection is a welcome possibility)
Since then, I've gone out with a few people a few times. And a few others just once. The "just once"'s were nice people, but it was like "Okay, you're nice, but spending two hours with you is preferable only to watching baseball- and that's really stretching it." The others were like, coffee here, dinner there, a movie once or twice and suddenly *poof*. There was one girl I went out with a coupe of times last fall/winter, we had a lot of fun. There seemed to be a mutual interest, and she actually asked me out more than I asked her. And then one day...*poof* I was more bummed about that one than the others. At least I never just disappeared on anyone. "I just can't do this right now" or whatever I said was kinda lame. But I gave them the courtesy of letting them know there wouldn't be another date.
And then for a while now, I've either met no one I'm interested in...or suddenly find myself with a crush on someone completely off limits, or just...not such a great idea. Tha's kinda annoying.
But the whole situation in general, I'm not entirely sure how I feel about this. Part of me is totally cool with it- I don't *need* anyone. But part of me isn't so much...I kinda *want* someone. I want to have someone that I can get to know and share some time with. I'm not looking for the rest of my life here. Is a couple of dates and some time hanging out too much to ask?
People complain about rejection. Right now, I don't even have a chance at rejection! (It's kinda sad when rejection is a welcome possibility)
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Date: 2005-10-07 10:20 am (UTC)But the whole situation in general, I'm not entirely sure how I feel about this. Part of me is totally cool with it- I don't *need* anyone. But part of me isn't so much...I kinda *want* someone.
Well, hey- for what it's worth, that's pretty much my status right now too so at least you're not the only one.
Everybody always says "your time will come" or "it'll happen once you stop actually looking," to which I simply reply "okay, if you say so." =P
'Course there is something to be said about having that much more time and money and so on available for yourself that you can deposit them into other things.