Bitch, Please.

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I just talked to Chelle.

After insisting that I not buy a dress (lest I should pick something that not match the kitchen wall paint, I'm sure) she now wants me to pay for half of the cost of the dress making and materials.

(I know it's a common thing for bridesmaids to pay for their dress. I've done it before. But this is not reasonable. I told her I probably couldn't- which is true, and that I would have to let her know closer to the wedding.)

Damn, and I already dyed my hair. The only thing keeping me from bleaching it out and making it pink again is the damage factor.

That's it...I'm getting blue extensions for this thing. Or purple. Or green. Maybe even rainbow. I dunno, but it's not gonna be "normal"

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[fuego.livejournal.com]

Why am I in the wedding? That's easy. My sister has no one else to ask. She has no female friends and we have no female relatives that she would be able to ask. So there is me.

The problem isn't so much "letting them have their day"...they can have it all they want.

The problem is that this has been nothing but a massive pain in my ass from the get go. The very act of her asking me to be in the wedding was an hour-long fiasco. She didn't ask me. she demanded that i interrupt my roommate from working on te computer so that i could look at a picture, which she had to resend to me like 6 times before i could see itand despite the fact that the phone managed to disconnect 4 times, she kept calling me back and going through this.

Then she changed the color and decided to have dresses made. ok, fine. I was ok with her proposed color. then it's another color. Same color asthe paint on her kitchen walls. I'm sure you've seen my other commentary about it.

then she decided that i needed to dye my hair so i wouldn't embarass the poor thing in front of the inlaws (her inlaws have seen me. if they care, they do a damned good job of hiding it.) I've dyed my freakin' hair already. It's brown. Plain brown.

Then she wants me to pay someone to do my hair on the day of. Cause um, apparently I'm not good enough with a can of hairspray and some nice barettes or somehting on my own.

and after a massive dress fiasco with her demanding several times that I make a trip up to Lancaster (which would cost me at least $120 and it would be a roughly 24-hour trip if that.)

I have to do that..looks like next weekend. Plus getting up there for the wedding itself. Oh, and I still have to get a pair of shoes.

So for my darling sister who has me as a bridesmade by default, I'm shelling out probably about $350 that I don't have to be in this wedding. I'd love to back out, oh let me tell you how much I would love to not be in the wedding. To not have to make the trip up there, to not have to deal with most of the rest of my family and hear about how I never visited my father or my grandmother at christmas and didn't do this or didn't call this person whatever...I'd love to skip out. Hell, I had other plans for that weekend before this wedding came up. (which she knew about but I guess it would be unreasonably bitchy for me to complain that she scheduled her wedding on a weekend that i had planned months before to be elsewhere.)

But ya know, whatever.

[triskele.livejournal.com]

Somehow I'm not surprised she has no female friends.

Back out! Or lay down the law with her. Tell her to go pick out a dress at a David's Bridal (they have those down where you are too, right? they're everywhere) and she can pay for it. They can send it to one closer to you and have it fitted. You've made enough concessions, she's being Bridezilla with no ground to stand on.

I understand *why* you would want to piss her off (back), but I don't understand why you are still in the wedding.

[fuego.livejournal.com]

but I don't understand why you are still in the wedding.

I'll let you know when I figure it out.

[fuego.livejournal.com]

Tell her to go pick out a dress at a David's Bridal (they have those down where you are too, right? they're everywhere) and she can pay for it. They can send it to one closer to you and have it fitted.


The dress that she had made is already just about finished, i just need to try it for alterations. I tried to talk her into getting a dress from David's months ago, but she refused. And actually, my past experience tells me that it's a bit late to go there anyway. Last time I tried to go to one, it took them at least 6 weeks to order the dress (cause you know, I'm not a stock size 12 or below, or whatever) and I still barely got it a week before the wedding.

But, I tried. I said I'd pay for it and all. Oh well. If things go wrong, it's not my problem at this point.