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Dear Baltimore,

What the hell is the deal with you people? Seriously. Mother's day was a month ago. There's no reason that random strangers in the street should still be wishing me happy mother's day. For serious, it's really old now. Knock it off.

Aside from that, why the fuck must it be assumed that because I am a female of childbearing age, that it means that I am a mother or am looking smilingly forward to the prospect of being one in the near future? It's not like anyone has ever seen me gaze longingly and sigh wistfully at the sight of a little bundle of er, joy. Stop it. Just cut it the hell out already.

Really irritated,

Fuego


So seriously, today on the way to the grove, some random guy walked up to me and wished me a happy belated mother's day. My bus was pulling up and I didn't want to miss it, so I didn't launch into a tirade, however difficult it was to resist.

Additionally, I heard him say as I got on the bus "You don't need to have kids to be a mother, you just need to be female."

Oh hell no.

Look. World. I'm not a mother. I have no interest in being a mother, I have no plans to have kids and I am thankful that I have a girlfriend who is even more actively disinterested in having kids than I am.

I am not a mother. I am an aunt. I am cool with that. I love my nieces. But for the love of Bob, that is NOT the same as being a fricken mother.

I'm now past the point of taking assumed good intentions into account. I'm really irritated by it. This isn't even a few days later, it's a blasted month.

I did get a little ironic amusement though, seeing a woman speaking to a man who appeared to be a stranger, and wishing him an early happy father's day, saying he didn't need kids to be a father, if he ever even babysat some kids, then he was a father. (If anyone cares, the guy didn't protest)

Comments

[glitteringlynx.livejournal.com]

I completely understand how you must feel. I worked in the store on Mother's Day. The one older guy asked me if I was a mother, and I smiled and said "No" (b/c honestly, I'm happy that I'm not) and he said "Well, I guess I can't wish you a Happy Mother's Day then" "Guess not!" It was pleasant, but it really caught me off-guard. I've never had that happen before. He wasn't the only one who asked if I was a mother, however--a good number of customers asked.

At least they asked before just assuming I was a parent. :/ I'd be a bit put off if they just assumed I had a human child. Mind you, I mentally decided after that first convo that if anyone DID wish me a happy mom's day, I'd just mentally take it as a compliment of being a mother to my cat. ;)

[sharkycharming.livejournal.com]

It is completely bizarre that you're still getting Mother's Day wishes three weeks after Mother's Day. And I am with you on loving being an aunt but not wanting to be a mother. Amen.

[verginiamus.livejournal.com]

I guess you must give off 'motherly vibes'? I never felt them. What is with everyone's interest in your fertility? It is just fine not having kids. I have a friend who gets that constantly. He tells folks that he and his wife are not parent material. He says he would make a bad father - so no kids. Some folks don't know when things are not their business.

[liritsvoice.livejournal.com]

"You just need to be female"??!??!?! AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! Since when?!??! Is this guy going around to 5 year old girls and saying the same thing to them? It doesn't matter your age or interest level. If you've got ovaries, you're a mother. FANTASTIC. I'm so glad I've just been made aware of the error of my ways. All this time I thought I was child free, and now I find out I've been wrong all along. I have however many eggs *correction* potential half-babies swimming around in my ovaries and clearly that makes me a mother of MANY. Wow. Thanks for clearing that up, random bus-stop man!!!